Abortion: A father’s lament

Abortion hurts families.

This is obviously true, yet this fact is so often ignored. It’s hidden.

The words below are not mine but they are heart-wrenching and raw. They are a father’s lament.

The pain of abortion
Discuss it with caution
Because just taking on abortion
It’s like being held to extortion

Clinics make it and fake it
Religion hates it and states it
Poor men are not allowed to rate it
But our poor women have to wear it
How do they bear it?

They’re our mums, our sisters, wives and friends
It’s up to them in the end
But it can drive everyone around the bend

So to all these beautiful girls going through hell
Just slow down a bit
You got more time just to sit
And listen to everyone for a bit

Take on all the views
And think about this hard
In your mind
In your heart

Your lover, your mother
It could even be your brother
And if we all help each other
It will make it easy for us to recover

But in the end it is abortion
We looked at it with caution
But don’t let any one group confuse you with distortion
Stop and listen
To everyone’s position

So we don’t make a big mistake
For everyone’s sake

It’s too late for me, my baby’s dead
I’m tired but can’t go to bed
My wife she still cries
And I know there’s been lies

And you could never blame her
Because she can’t read
And I wasn’t there
It’s not bloody fair
I should have been there

Two weeks catching fish
But you know what I wish
Those people that talk
at the clinic they squawk
Maybe they could have put in a cork
And rang me to talk

Because Nessa
A beautiful mother
And wouldn’t hurt another
So you can call me a cynic
They stuffed up at the clinic

One hour to talk
It takes longer to learn
About a baby you burn
So now is my turn
I need you to learn
You should hold a longer class
To kick this in the ass

I’ve known my wife 26 years
And you talked to her
As long as it takes to drink two beers
And if your counsellors were smart
They’d talk to me for a start
Because we are never apart
And maybe she’s not that smart

But you invaded our life
It nearly pulled us apart
You put a needle in my baby’s heart
You know how that hurts for a start?

You opened her cervix
Then sent her home
All alone

When I seen her there
With that look of despair
I can’t forget that day
And what she had to say

I have so much pain in my heart
I don’t know where to start

But that’s not the finish
My baby’s inside her
Just lying there dead
Now get that in your head
I couldn’t go to bed

I couldn’t believe it
Then I started to grieve it
It made me cry
I couldn’t understand why
I kept asking her why

I started to get mad
It’s bloody sad

So all the next day
She’s all alone
I talked on the phone

While you remove my son
He was gonna be a person

My missus said she didn’t know how big he was
That he would have looked like a baby
You should have showed her a picture
On the net
Then maybe my son I would have met

But instead we’re crying
I feel like I’m dying

I’m the alpha male
And you have heard part of my tale.

Author: Bernard Gaynor

Bernard Gaynor is a married father of nine children. He has a background in military intelligence, Arabic language and culture and is an outspoken advocate of conservative and family values.

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  1. I was always against abortion but the horror of it hit home when my teenage daughter told me she was pregnant. She must have been so ashamed and tempted to abort because I was a church organist in a small town yet she resisted the temptation and had the baby.

    That was twelve years ago and today he is a very beautiful and intelligent boy.

    The pro-death brigade are wrong: my grandson was never just “a bunch of cells”. From conception his face, his eye and hair colour, his beauty and intelligence were all there. He has never existed before and he’ll never exist again. To have killed him would have been a crime and an insult to God.

    We should all pray for the fathers who wrongly have no say in whether their children live or are killed in utero.

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  2. Yes, abortion its a painful and horrific tragedy for everyone. I’ve met a number of men whose wives or girlfriends had an abortion. It cuts into their very souls. So many are tormented everyday by it and go to their graves with a dark secret. How much better it is to do all we can to uphold life.

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  3. Abortion hurts everyone. The baby is the first victim. Father’s are often the next. Maternal grief often comes later. But eventually it catches up with everyone concerned.

    We hear all this talk of rights but there is one fundamental human right – the right to life! Any so-called right that offends against it is no right at all. It is a wrong. And the wrong of abortion is a bloodstain on western civilisation which will have to be paid for sooner or later.

    When future historians debate on the moral collapse of the West abortion will be first on the agenda.

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