I’ve written a bit about feminism this year and it is a subject I intend to continue pursuing.
And while I am more than happy to point out the dangerous and crazy ideas that sprout from the feminist movement, today I’m going to do something a little dangerous and crazy myself. I’m going to kind of agree with them.
Feminists are an unhappy bunch. They might not know it, but it’s because they have high expectations of men and are continually disappointed.
Unfortunately, men generally have become very low achievers. Feminists, rightly, are outraged at this because it leaves them unfulfilled and empty. The love, leadership and rocklike dependency they crave is missing.
So feminists have taken matters into their own hands. If men won’t be men, then the women will step up to the plate. And who can really blame them?
Men have become perpetual adolescents. They have been allowed to live the 15 year old boy’s fantasy of free sex and no responsibility. As a result, men no longer grow up. The general irresponsibility of men is what has spawned and feeds the feminist movement.
I’ll give credit to these women. They care more about the big issues than most men. It is just unfortunate that they are so far off track.
As I mentioned above, there is a reason why men are perpetual adolescents. It’s called contraception and abortion and it goes hand in hand with non-committal relationships.
The feminists probably don’t want to hear it, but reproductive “choice” has made them sexual slaves of mediocre and selfish owners. I accept that some women think it’s great, but the truth is that it is not.
The reality is this: contraception and abortion are ‘tools’ women use to ‘manage’ a sexual relationship with a man who won’t take responsibility for his actions. And irrespective of whether the woman thinks that this provides choice or freedom, both these things absolve men of their selfishness. It’s all give on the woman’s part and it’s all take on the man’s. That’s not mutual respect. Rather, it’s a relationship between the dominated and the dominator.
Abortion and contraception allow men to view sex as five minutes of fun and that’s that. They allow men to view women in general, and most particularly the woman they are with, as just ‘a bit of fun’. And because all responsibility has gone, the relationship is carefree and careless.
The horrible truth of all of this is that men who are in carefree and careless relationships want self-gratification, rather than a lasting connection that is about more than just the bedroom. So when the bedroom gets boring, they move on to another one. It’s just what adolescents do. Even when they are 45.
Or, to put it another way, when the sexual concubine is no longer pleasing, men will find a new one.
This phenomenon is not unnoticed. Recently The Courier Mail’s Kylie Lang published an article about the predatory nature of men in the growing online-dating scene. Apparently there is more non-committal action than ever before, and for older men. Ms Lang drily noted that most of the younger women entering the careless bedroom were looking for a relationship, while the men wanted a fling.
How nice for the men, Kylie said sarcastically. And with truth. The women are not the winners in this game. And as she noted in a second column a week later, the one night stand mostly ends in disappointment. For the woman, that is.
Kylie also stated that ‘good-time’ girls don’t get much respect from men. It’s true. They don’t. They are slaves and who would respect a sexual slave.
Women have an innate desire to please men. That might not sound politically correct, but that’s the way God made them (or, if you are so inclined, the way evolution shaped them). But it’s not all bad news. Men have an innate desire to adore the woman they love.
Non-committal sex destroys this mutual complementarity, and more so in men. It’s hard to love someone you don’t respect. And this is where the feminists have got it wrong. They think that more reproductive choice and control will allow them to have more pleasing relationships with men. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that. It just makes men more irresponsible. And women’s lives are shattered as a result.
Take abortion for example. There’s somewhere between 75,000 and 100,000 a year. No one knows for sure, but anecdotal evidence suggests the vast majority are because men are just slugs. Take this Mamamia piece. The anonymous woman admits she had two abortions because the guys she was with were idiots.
I can imagine why a woman with a bozo boyfriend and hopes of a career will contemplate an abortion. And I understand it is probably just about the worst thing any woman could face. It is not a choice to relish, but one fuelled by fear. Lust might have resulted in the choice, but love plays no part in it. Abortion is an answer to “what if” and “how can I”. Mainly, what if I don’t want this bloke’s kid and how can I raise it when I know he has no desire for a life with me.
That’s not a fun place to be in and it’s a place created by masculine irresponsibility.
Unfortunately, the anguish doesn’t end at the clinic. It can go on. It might be hard for some to hear, but the tragedy surrounding Charlotte Dawson does have a link to abortion. She said so herself. It changed her and that was when her depression started. Masculine selfishness and irresponsibility is woven into this tragedy.
Abortion is always wrong because it allows fear to destroy life. But it’s root cause is not in a failure to acknowledge life. Many women do acknowledge this. It’s found in relationships that are fundamentally broken and hopeless, whereas life is always hopeful. The responsibility for that rests with men. Because a woman who takes the pill or endures abortion has, in a radically flawed way, surrendered her life for his pleasure.
If men respected the women they were with, if they truly cherished them, then abortion would not be a possibility.
But men do not respect their women. So abortions occur and men just move on. Women are left to carry the burden inside.
Women are rightly enraged by this irresponsibility of men. That is why we have radical feminists. However much they might disdain the idea, the feminist movement is the fruit of adolescent men’s carelessness.