This already ain’t a respectful debate

This webpage is proud to have its very own resident progressive, Iffiayah Wazza-Lefte.
She has come out of the closet for the plebiscite and has some inciteful remarks about the homophobic hate-speech that our nation is already enduring


It’s such a shame.

Already the battle for ‘marriage equality’ has descended into the gutter. As such, and as a new age Muslim aunt of a gay dolphin trainer who just wants the freedom to be publicly adored by society for marrying whatever he may want, I despair about our nation’s future.

Before I get into the hatred that’s already on display, I also want to make some important and self-evident points.

Diversity is important. It is literally what makes the sun come up every day.

Diversity is also strong. But it is weak and needs protection.

That’s why those who are members of a vulnerable minority need to be shielded from hateful words of disagreement that are hateful by the very fact of disagreement. The vulnerable, despite the strength that they bring to our nation, simply cannot cope with outdated and bigoted views.

So they need protection too.

And they will be protected when we accept that diversity means recognising difference. That’s why it is so important that we change our language to eliminate words like husband and wife, mother and father, he and she.

Diversity means acknowledging that, despite our differences, we are all equal. A truly diverse nation would eliminate any gender, sexual, racial or other stereotypes or language that highlight unfair or negative variance. In fact, in a truly diverse nation, we would all be described in exactly the same way because we are all the same underneath and we would all be welcome to embrace any aspect of the fullness of humanity.

It is only then that we would all have the freedom to accept our differences. It is only then that we could all have the liberty to live as we choose. It is only then that we could all be anything we want, which means there would be no limits and no differences. We would be so truly diverse that we would all be the same.

That is where we need to head. And people like me won’t have children until we achieve such a world  – a world where they can be truly free.

Until such a time comes, therefore, it is important that progressives work hard to remove harmful and negative family influences that are currently affecting the very lives of children others have so irresponsibly and selfishly brought into this world.

And one of those influences is the ‘Dark Ages’ understanding of marriage that still festers in our laws today.

It must go.

And we know that the Australian people want it to go. Every credible opinion poll has shown this. That is why it is so careless to allow a public vote. There is a strong possibility that negative scare campaigns could lead to the wrong result.

That is why this debate needs to be respectful, considerate and informed.

So it saddens me to see how dangerous it has already become. And I am not referring to hate-filled Christians who should have no right to speak or vote on this issue at all.

I am speaking directly about those who should know better: our progressive leaders.

Take Mia Freedman from the usually respectful website, Mamamia. She’s normally so sensible.

After all, she did smash Bernard Gaynor’s disgusting comment that he would not let a homosexual teach his children with a fine open letter that included this line:

“Looking back, I have no idea what ‘values’ my teachers held. And the same goes for my children’s teachers.”

Exactly. You go, girl!

And her 19 year old son has just yesterday penned a breathtakingly open, honest and caring article promoting his healthy pornography habit that included this gem:

“Talking honestly about porn is the way we can help raise sexually healthy, feminist men who respect women in and out of bed.”

So if I ever subcontracted my pregnancy out to help a struggling cis-woman from Thailand, Mia is the kind of mother that I would like to model myself on.

But then, yesterday, she also posted this:

Obviously, I do not need to explain why this is so hurtful. So hateful.

Indeed, posts like this are the reason young, vulnerable gay people are taking their own lives. If this hate-speech keeps up many of them won’t have just temporarily boycotted the plebiscite to hell. They’ll have boycotted it in the most permanent way possible.

That is why the backlash online against Freedman was so swift.

One benefit, at least, is that Freedman appears to understand how damaging such ill-considered remarks can be. They contain latent and unconscious homophobic bias and she apologised profusely.

I, too, now take this opportunity to grovel in advance as well, just in case I have shown similar disrespect in my writing. It’s the least we can all do to show our support for the cause.

But it is not just Freedman who has been hurtful.

The Victorian government is spending $15 million to build a Pride Centre in St Kilda. This is the kind of project that taxpayer money should be spent on.

Sigh. Just imagine if the Turnbull government had simply passed marriage equality and allocated the $122 million cost of the plebiscite to similar projects in other capital cities.

Because we surely need them, as the Victorian Pride Centre project shows.

It might be forward looking, as this Facebook post demonstrates:

But just last month at a community consultation event for the Pride Centre project, the convenor greeted the audience with the words, ‘ladies and gentlemen’.

There were several non-binary people at this event and they were naturally deeply offended. Such language is transphobic. And not just when trans persons are present.

It is transphobic. Full stop. All. The. Time.

Again, such language could see vulnerable people self-harm. And so do attitudes from the Victorian Pride Centre that indicate the building will be given a ‘safe space’ for biologically-female lesbians. This will discriminate against those who are freeing themselves from the constraints of the gender unfairly assigned to them at birth. We need to be mature enough to accept that men can be lesbians too.

This kind of unconscious bias shows that transphobic attitudes are rooted deep in society, even within the LGBTIQ+ community.

It needs to stop.

And if the LGBTI community is going to be so heartless to use the sexist, binary and outdated phrase ‘ladies and gentlemen’ with seemingly gay abandon, one can only despair at the other hate-filled comments we are likely to endure over the coming weeks as this entirely anti-democratic plebiscite rolls on.

The only solution is to let rip. We need to see more of this:

Author: Iffiayah Wazza-Lefte

Iffaiyah Waazah-Llefte is a modern, secular, progressive Muslim feminist, deeply concerned about the loss of social justice and humanitarian values in today's deeply divided and fear-filled world. Embrace the love is her motto and it applies to all.

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  1. The Victorian Pride Centre should be denounced for the bigots they really are. They repeatedly pander to the selfish desires of Australia’s most vocal minority, the white person. White stripes make up almost 50% of their flag!

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  2. Thanks for the reminder that Mia Freedman is just as irrelevant and hypocritical as she ever was.

    Much like her brand of feminism, which is highly offensive to women … and men … and women thinking they’re men … and men thinking they’re women who want to marry women who think they’re men who can have abortions and stuff.

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  3. It is good to see Iffiayah return to this blog with her words of wisdom. The strength and beauty of diversity are just so full of ..well..fullness. We are what we envision ourselves to be: our culture, our race, our religion, our gender, our species. It is boring and fascist to be tied down to just one gender or one species. The more diverse, the more freely imagined, the more full of fullness. This is a beautiful thing.

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    • I am the proud owner of a bicycle.

      From now on I want to call it a tricycle.

      How do I go about having the rest of Australia recognise my new tricycle? Can I just lobby my local representative in Parliment to change the language or shall I demand a Plebiscite or a Referendum?

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  4. I chose not to be respectful towards the LGBTI – alphabet community.
    I chose not to be respectful towards Islam & Muslims.
    I chose not to be respectful towards people who identify as Socially Progressive.
    I chose not to be respectful towards people who use a personal pronoun which isn’t male or female.
    I chose not to be respectful towards feminists & their thuggery.

    Does this make me a bad person in the eyes of those above ? Answer. I hope so.

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  5. I’ve NEVER read so much CRAP EVER
    Where was this twat educated, it needs to be leveled. AND there’s no such thing as a muslim feminist it’s an OXYMORON

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    • Iffiayah Wazza-Lefte is certainly a strange breed. But she does represent everything that we love about the ‘Left’.

      Mostly she should just be laughed at…

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  6. Homosexuals in relationships are afforded every legal right that hetero couples have so the woe is me facade is getting monotonous. This is all about redefining marriage and absolutely nothing about Same Sex Marriage. The marriage act states a union between one man and one woman. The SSm activists want marriage and gender to eventually be abolished altogether. As Masha Gessen, a senior LGBTIQ activist stated at a conference in Sydney in 2012
    “Gessen shared her views on the subject and very specifically stated;
    “Gay marriage is a lie.”
    “Fighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we’re going to do with marriage when we get there.”
    “It’s a no-brainer that the institution of marriage should not exist.”
    As mentioned above, Gessen also talked about redefining the traditional family. This may have something to do with the fact that she has “three children with five parents”:

    “I don’t see why they (her children) shouldn’t have five parents legally. I don’t see why we should choose two of those parents and make them a sanctioned couple.”

    Anyone who talks out against SSm is hit with so much abuse and vitriol.
    A yes vote will destroy our freedoms, values and will be a major push for political correctness. That is visible with the violence and abuse the activists are inflicting on individuals and companies that won’t openly support them. Religious groups are also going to pay dearly for a yes vote. The Qld premier has already wanted to stop kids talking about Jesus at school and if this goes through you won’t be allowed to be called Mum or Dad anymore either. The social engineering in schools will only get worse.
    This is a matter of fact ( visible the world over in countries that have allowed SSm) and people wonder why Australian’s deserve a say.
    Thanks to Bernie and Cory and all the others who are standing up for traditional marriage.
    Spread the message- Don’t mess with the Marriage Act-
    Vote NO on SSM

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  7. This woman is a bloody fruit loop what planet is she from

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